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The Principles of Disciplining with Love

Updated: Jan 18, 2019

Discipline is a practice that teaches children to comply with rules and display good behavior. Punishment is a form of disciplining. Parents use punishment to rectify and correct the defiance.

Disciplining your children with love is a notion that comes from correcting your child’s bad behavior from a warm and loving place, opposed to a negative and demeaning manner. Many times we as parents get very upset when our children display bad behavior. We automatically say or do the first thing that comes to mind. So the question most parents ask is “how should I discipline or react to my child’s bad behavior”?

Some methods of regulating punishment are more successful than others. It is vital that the punishment strictly comes after the child’s disobedience. The intention is for the child to put together the link connecting their actions and their consequences. An additional great factor is to always converse with your child, giving them the reasons why the conduct was not pleasing. Please remember that the success of punishment also hinge on the consistency. You have to be consistent if you want your child to take you serious. Children are non-compliant and destructive when parents forbid a behavior in one instance and allow it in another. This type of inconsistency sends mix messages to children; therefore they will take a chance in wrong doing because they believe there will be no consequence for their misbehaving.

Positive Punishments

Time Out Take away privileges (T.V., electronic devices, hanging out with friends)

Extra Chores

Negative Punishments

Sharp verbal scolding (calling your child stupid, dumb, idiots…)

Hitting out of annoyance

Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them. (Proverbs 13:24)

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